When getting a divorce, experienced attorneys and family lawyers can help through this stressful time in anyone's life and also help avoid very costly financial and emotional mistakes. However, in a typical divorce, the judge is the most important figure throughout the case, for they will deliver their verdict.
Most judges are intelligent, compassionate, and concerned with doing the right thing. Yet, judges are human, and you must guide your behavior in, and out of court, by how you may appear to another person.
Expected Behavior During Trial
If you or your spouse are considering divorce proceedings, you must consult a divorce and family lawyer to determine your rights and obligations. Do not sign anything or take any action that can affect you or your children's rights without getting proper legal advice from a qualified family and divorce lawyer.
It is also essential to be honest, and do what you promise. If your actions don't match your words, a judge will pick up on that. Consequently, be the person everyone admires throughout your divorce, and the judge will also pick up on that. A judge will frequently give the benefit of the doubt to a person that appears to be rational and honest.
Behavior to Avoid During Trial
The rules strictly prohibit any communication with the judge outside the other party's presence. So do not attempt to speak to the judge in private. Letters to the judge are also prohibited. Additionally, all communications with the judge must be conducted in the presence of the opposing party. And in practice, any communications must be done at a mutually arranged hearing in front of the judge. Finally, always be aware that a stranger measures and analyzes your actions and words. But in this case, the stranger is a judge and has power over your life and divorce.
During the hearing, avoid appearances of instability. You will always come out best if you maintain a squeaky clean image. Even if you don't speak during your trial, the judge is probably looking at and evaluating you. Below you will find further advice:
interrupt your attorney every 3 minutes
glare at your spouse or the opposing attorney
speak directly to the other party or attorney
talk to the judge if you have an attorney - unless asked to
furiously write notes in a compulsive-looking manner
wear revealing or dirty clothing